I agreed to live in the same house, as he needs to live there, and I don’t expect him to get rid of everything he & she had. However, I don’t see the bed as just a piece of furniture and it bothers me that it was ‘their’ bed. Am I too sensitive or is he too practical?
I'm getting married and my fiance plans for us to use the same bed as he and his x-wife had. Would u care?
Mon, Jan 24, 2011
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24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
I would ask him if he could buy a new bed. I’m not that sensitive about it, and it wouldn’t bother me, but I can see where it would bother some, and to me if it bothers you, it would be money well spent to start your marriage off on the right foot.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
some may consider you too sensitive….however, stay in your lane and get a different bed. no one can tell you what is ok for you….not even your husband.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
he is definately to practical, that would not be acceptable to me!
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
i bet he thinks about how he used to plow her in that bed while he is pounding your box.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
That is pretty lame if you are already being picky over the bed. Your marriage will never work out if you are going to complain about everything.. its a bed. Its not like your sleeping with his ex wife! I have news for you…He has an exwife..which means he did have sex before you and probably with more than just his exwife.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
Not starting off on the right foot! You are right, if you have expressed this to him and he is not sensitive to your wishes, no telling what is to come. Try this, Why not put a bed on your wedding register?
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
I would be checking that thing with a black light if i were you.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
He is being practical – I wouldn’t sleep in the same bed as my partner’s ex wife.
If you can why don’t you put it like "fresh start, new bed" if you have to live in the same house with the same stuff they accumulated together, the least he can do is compromise and give you a new bed
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
well..it might seem silly, but i see your point! on an emotional level..let’s just say it would be nice to have a new bed for your "new relationship". i would save up for new mattresses. it’s a good investment. and move around the furniture the way you like it.
and congratulations
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
I would demand a new bed asap….I’ve been in the same situation and I told him we had to get a new bed and explained why and he understood. I had brought bath towels into my new marriage that I had from a previous boyfriend and my husband was bothered by it somewhat and I got rid of them. He really didn’t really get upset but I could tell it was a bother. Explain to your fiance and more than likely he’ll understand.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
no no no !!!
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
Every expert says that starting fresh is best, especially getting rid of the bed you shared with your ex. I have gone thru a similar situation and that person made lots of promises but never kept them. It caused me a lot of hurt. I would really talk honestly about this one with him. It is completely natural to feel uncomfortable with this one. He needs to at least compromise on getting a new bed and making the house both of yours. There is no good reason to keep the house as a mueseum filled with the past.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
Sell ll on e-bay, make some bucks to purchase a new bed. .Get him unattached from the old thoughts.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
Demand a new bed.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
No you are not too sensitive, however since you are getting married soon, and might not be ready to go out and get a new bedroom set, is it possible to just get a new mattress? That way, at least you won’t be sleeping in the exact same place as she once did. I wouldn’t care so much about the bedframe, but definitely the mattress. Hope that helps!!
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
It’s totally disrespectful of him to expect you to sleep in the same bed he shared with her.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
No, you are not sensitive!! If I were you I wouldn’t use that bed. He’s just too practical.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
Yes I would care!! Get a new bed.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
yes i would get a new bed is he crazy
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
I couldn’t live in the same house… it would bug the hell out of me thinking about what they did where… but I’m like that I guess some aren’t. If it bothers you he should be caring enough about your feelings to purchase a new bed! I would also slowly redecorate the house to make it feel more like my home and ask him to help pick out paint ect. Just what I would do if I was in your situation. Like I said some do better in that situation than others! But also know he is marrying you for you not to fill and empty place in his home and he wouldn’t be commiting his life to you if he didn’t love you! Best of luck to you both!
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
Does he take you to a movie with out even caring if you will like it? Do you fix him food he can’t stand?.
If it is a problem for you then he SHOULD TAKE YOUR FEELINGS into consideration. (read Ephesians 5:28,29,33)
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
I say set her ablaze and play dumb!
The mattress – not the ex-wife – outside!
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
There is nothing wrong to change the bed. You guys deserve a new start and it feels kind of grouse to just imagine there were other women there.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
Tell him you want a new bed.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
He is too practical. Take a stand. The both of you can go in on it together to get a new bed.
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
no way
24. January 2011 at 7:12 pm
NO NO NO NO NO NO NONONONONO
sell the house and move the f**k out! baddddd karma girl…you better burn that bed too